Dr. Sears has a saying, "Children who feel right, act right." When I first read this statement it made perfect sense to me and I have tried to use it when working with my kids. I have come to discover that there is an additional statement that can be made here, "Parents who feel right, act right." And one more, "People who feel right, act right." It is very easy to look at behavior of children, parents, or practically anyone we see and forget that the behaviors they have come from what is going on inside.
Recently, many people have begun to speak out about bullying. The part of the conversation I see being left out is that bullying is a symptom of a deeper disease. If bullying has increased in violence and rate of occurrence it might be because kids have less freedom than ever before. It might be the pressure kids and parents are under starting earlier and earlier to be good at everything. It could have its roots in our cultures continued reliance on a dominance and subservience model, a model that by its nature leads to violence. Whatever the root causes, a conversation about how to stop bullying that does not take in to account where bullying comes from has limited potential success in changing anything.
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